A new year means new opportunities! New hopes and dreams! I'm going to share some of the hopes I have for 2024.
The awareness around body-focused repetitive behaviors is growing thanks to all of the wonderful people in the community sharing their experiences. However, there are still many people who just can't wrap their head around it. There are medical professionals still misdiagnosing patients and using the wrong language. There are people who still believe shaming someone will help them to stop. All of these things hurt the BFRB community because it makes it hard for people to get the proper support that they need. I hope that in 2024 we continue to spread awareness and get through to more people.
More in-person events
Being in a room filled with people just like me was one of the best experiences of my life. I belonged. I was understood. Those feelings used to be so foreign to me because like many people I thought I was the only one. This year I hope to attend more and hopefully create in-person events. I know there are people with BFRBs in South Florida! I can feel it!
Get out of your comfort zone
2024 is the year to get out of your comfort zone by slowly letting go of your "comfort blanket." A few years ago false eyelashes were mine. You couldn't catch me without them (not even when I was sleeping). Slowly but surely I stopped wearing them and started rebuilding my confidence without them. Now I feel beautiful no matter what state my eyelashes are in. It felt uncomfortable at first but it was worth it.
Out with the harsh and rigid goal setting and in with gentleness and understanding. Making goals for your BFRB can be great if your goals are small and attainable otherwise it can be detrimental to your healing. Being "pull-free" might not be the best goal. It wasn't for me. Once I realized that I was able to make bigger strides in my healing journey. Treat yourself gently during the intense pulling/picking/biting moments. Use kind words. You are a special person deserving of love and kindness, especially from yourself.
Want to share your BFRB experience but you're nervous? Do it anyway! Make an Instagram or TikTok and connect with other people who understand! There is nothing better. Being a part of a community is life changing. Make friends. Attend support groups. Get out there and connect!
2024 is going to be an amazing year and I can't wait to see what it has to bring!